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Quotes from The Peru and Ecuador Peace Process, 1988

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Quotes from Healing Resistance (Part I) by Kazu Haga

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May 7, 2025
How To Feel Heard

May 6, 2025
Quotes from The Art of Asking Questions (Ken Cloke)

Apr 21, 2025
Questions for dialogue and political polarization

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Questions for close relationship in conflict

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My dream bachelor party

Apr 17, 2025
Quotes from The Art of Gathering (Priya Parker)

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Devotion and The Earth

Apr 14, 2025
Quotes from Swiss Democracy: Possible Solutions to Conflict in Multicultural Societies (Wolf Linder and Sean Mueller)

Apr 3, 2025
Quotes from Mediation and the Evolution of Democracy by Ken Cloke

Mar 27, 2025
Universal Basic Positive Reinforcement

Mar 26, 2025
Quotes from Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas

Mar 20, 2025
Quotes from Getting Past No by William Ury

Mar 13, 2025
The difference between a warning and a threat (William Ury)

Mar 13, 2025
He can damn well mix his own martinis

Mar 11, 2025
Quotes from Speaking of Faith by Krista Tippett

Mar 9, 2025
Krista Tippet on Religious Extremism, with a focus on Islam (from Speaking of Faith)

Mar 4, 2025
Give me your hand

Mar 3, 2025
Faith, It’s What’s For Dinner

Mar 3, 2025
The Problem with “Win-Win” Negotiation

Mar 1, 2025
Quotes from Start With No (Jim Camp)

Mar 1, 2025
Dude, stop talking about your Rights

Feb 22, 2025
Quotes from Moral Tribes (Joshua Greene)

Feb 22, 2025
How does divorce mediation work?

Feb 21, 2025
Power and Finesse

Feb 21, 2025
The Primacy of Nuance (inspired by Love Israel, Support Palestine by Nir Avishai Cohen)

Feb 16, 2025
Quotes from Love Israel, Support Palestine (Nir Avishai Cohen)

Feb 12, 2025
Beloved Chaos -> Beloved Community

Feb 9, 2025
What we can learn from Gandhi’s Letters to Hitler

Feb 3, 2025
How to make friends in your new ‘hood

Jan 30, 2025
On MLK’s Letter from Birmingham Jail

Jan 18, 2025
IRL Community: What is the point?

Jan 11, 2025
Domestic Partnership Performance Review, Parisian Style

Dec 19, 2024
Forgiveness, Reconciliation, and Spiritual Bypassing

Dec 8, 2024
Sermon: What is an Enemy?

Dec 2, 2024
Compromise vs. Collaboration

Nov 24, 2024
Every Emotion Is Information (We Need Your Anger)

Nov 10, 2024
Positions, Interests, Goals, Strategies, and Zero-Sum Games

Nov 8, 2024
Risk Mitigation Through Unconditional Love

Nov 8, 2024
How do you deal with Truly Bad Actors?

Nov 3, 2024
Next week’s election: Don’t worry, it’s much worse than you think!

Oct 28, 2024
My Conflict Pronouns

Oct 27, 2024
What is Marital Mediation?

Oct 16, 2024
What Is Omni-Partiality?

Oct 16, 2024
How To Win A Democracy

Oct 9, 2024
The Personal Collaboration Manual (v1.4)

Aug 17, 2024
Why I keep shifting careers

Aug 17, 2024
Are you lying to me?

May 21, 2024
Conflict Stories as Fairy Tales

May 16, 2024
The Iron Law of Integrity

May 16, 2024
What’s your name, cabrón?

May 13, 2024
Admit Something!

May 13, 2024
Case Study on Collective Bargaining

May 6, 2024
How to Leave a Meaningful Life

May 5, 2024
Nelson Mandela and the Expansion of Self

Apr 21, 2024
Three Quotes from Nelson Mandela

Apr 21, 2024
Why was I born? (and other dinner table icebreakers)

Apr 14, 2024
The Six Dimensions of Conflict Transformation

Apr 11, 2024
Three examples of slow dialogue

Apr 9, 2024
Civic Engineering dialogue v1

Apr 3, 2024
How To Prevent A Civil War

Mar 24, 2024
95% of the work

Mar 11, 2024
Seeing Conflict as a gift

Mar 11, 2024
Three Kinds of Questions

Mar 3, 2024
Give me permission to change (Identity Foreclosure)

Feb 25, 2024
Apology to mice

Feb 20, 2024
Two Positive Takes on Imposter Syndrome

Feb 16, 2024
Confidence sweet spot

Feb 16, 2024
Remember mt. stupid

Feb 16, 2024
Why be open-minded when you could be right?

Feb 13, 2024
“Our challenge is not to eliminate conflict but to transform it”

Feb 13, 2024
THE Mice and the Cherry Blossoms

Jan 28, 2024
When is it okay NOT to do what you love?

Nov 28, 2023
Three Questions to take it down a notch

Nov 22, 2023
12 Questions to deepen interaction through conflict

Nov 21, 2023
Empirical Purposing (Poster)

Nov 7, 2023
Empirical Purposing: Inhabit Your Purpose in 9 Difficult Steps

Nov 5, 2023
Building Community By Asking For Help

Oct 22, 2023
Looking Back From The 500 Year Peace

Oct 15, 2023
How To Find A Job That Doesn’t Suck (video overview)

Oct 1, 2023
I have 1,000 things to do and I’m not doing any of it.

Sep 20, 2023
How To Find A Job That Doesn’t Suck

Sep 20, 2023
Five Gifts for the Loyal Listener

Sep 18, 2023