“Once we shift our attention from assessing the truth or falsity of the story, we can recognize that it was designed to communicate the storyteller’s subjective interpretation, emotional response, mental confusion, fear of vulnerability, and desire for assistance in understanding what happened. Recognizing these elements in conflict stories makes it possible to transform the story and invent new ones that end in resolution, forgiveness, and reconciliation.”
from The Crossroads of Conflict, Ken Cloke
When mediating, I often wonder whose telling the truth. And then I wonder if I should care whose telling the truth. #kenalreadythoughtofthat
Ankur Shah Delight: Community and Conflict 